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Alanna Duffield's avatar

This is beautifully written 🥹 I’m going through a breakup right now and it was helpful to read x

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Emilie Mendham's avatar

Thank you so much for reading, hope you’re doing well ❤️

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Wendy Chamorro's avatar

Loved this! I ask chagpt for ideas on things I can do on my own haha I’m having a great time

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matt hatter's avatar

Here from TikTok

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Emilie Mendham's avatar

Welcome!!

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Bella Hathaway's avatar

I read the title and thought "but I don't *wanna* be single though 🤪" only to read this beautifully written piece and come to a profound thought. Because for me, at this point, it finally is, "I don't want to" and not "I can not". It's starkly different to how I'd see it a few months ago. Doing those small things alone, as you've described, have become such charming and refreshing breaks in my life. I get so much joy even in my occasional "wishful for someone" rants and that's such an interesting revelation. You've explored it so elegantly. Thank youu 🩵

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Priya's avatar

Loved this piece! The line “Somewhere along the way, I’d forgotten that I was a whole person on my own.” Really hit home, and a mindset that I have luckily and through sheer will unlearned. It takes time to feel better but is great once you get there 💕

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Nicole's avatar

Just reading this article - what was said about becoming insufferable as a woman talking about men really hit home. In order to find ultimate peace in being single, my conversations need to be less about the men who I believed hurt me.

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⋆⭒˚.⋆ grace ⋆⭒˚.⋆'s avatar

Late to the party but I ADORE this! In a relationship now, but when my last one ended I totally went through this and for the first time, felt enough on my own. I learned that it’s possible to be happy & fulfilled while single and it was so important - that breakthrough made me way more picky about who I choose to let in my life so intimately.

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Mangii's avatar

Ugggh love this so much ! Beautiful written

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chloe ☽'s avatar

this was beautifully written! I went through a break up just before Christmas and I am learning to enjoy being alone, this piece has given me some food for thought!

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priya's avatar

this feels like it was written for me

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Kelsey Wynne's avatar

This is so good! Such a beautiful node to friendship and being alone ♥️

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Sophie Caruana's avatar

I loved loved loved reading this, like a hug 💌

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Ajonjolí's avatar

Love this post. Such a great reminder after breaking up from a long relationship. Sending you love<3

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Derya's avatar

Beautiful piece & the intro hooked me right from the go. Loved it!

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Madison Porter's avatar

I love how you always correlate humor with each post but still keep it interesting and serious, it’s the perfect mix. You are my Carrie Bradshaw, I love these.

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Ollie's avatar

Such a lovely piece! As someone who’s on the opposite side it’s so interesting to see the struggles in a different light. I love the peace and freedom of being alone and don’t let it stop me experiencing things. I often wonder how much of my desire to have a girlfriend is intrinsic rather than media/societal pressure.

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