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Ashley D.'s avatar

“You love each other with the reckless abandon of people that have never been hurt before.” That line. 😭💛 What an honor to discover the love we only find in loss.

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Emilie Mendham's avatar

Thank you so so much for reading 💖

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matt hatter's avatar

That last paragraph. Unreal. Thank you ❤️

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Izabella Tandlmayer's avatar

Teared up a little…. What a blessing it is to know love

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Li Yuan Ong's avatar

I would say it takes time to be fully releasing the past into the mist. And it's hard to forget but it's easy to let go as time goes by. But do not let your heart turn bitter because of how you have been treated.

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Nushen Baihe's avatar

Strange but true….new love takes the place of old and over time you’re left with a lot more warm and fuzzy and a lot less heart break

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3L0QU3NCE's avatar

I havent read the letter yet but im 20 and its been 6 months since i broke up with my ex. She was my first love and it was intense. I found myself reliving old memories as if we were still together which was only perpetuating this state of heartbreak and unease.

My conclusion is that you can get over them if you want to.

If you haven’t or don’t, then that is a choice you are making.

Sometimes feeling bad feels good because we feel its all we have left of that person.

The truth is they aren’t yours and they can do whatever they please, so this is your time to rebuild or better yet reinvent yourself outside of that relationship.

That’s my very fresh 2 cents.

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Shehtaz Ruslan's avatar

It's taking me double the time instead of half

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Katerina's avatar

It kind of reminded me the essay I wrote not so long ago, if you want to check it out :) : https://thegirlfromthenorthcountry.substack.com/p/breakups-hit-different-but-we-move

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esme's avatar

wonderful work!!! i've liked the same guy for a couple years on and off now and we just put an end to the romantic aspect of our relationship at the start of the new year. i have no clue how long it'll take me to get over him but praying it doesn't deter me from finding love in others around me

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meesh's avatar

#horrifiedtoreadthisone

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Iseeya's avatar

I love love love reading this!!!

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Whisper drafts of Labonno's avatar

Never had my first love. HAH

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Bella's avatar

I just had my first break up literally last night, t wasn’t messy just very sad I guess. I literally cried reading this but it was the reassurance I needed. Thank you.

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Waithera :)'s avatar

This is really beautifully written!

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Linda's avatar

This was so beautiful I’m actually in bits , thank you

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haebith's avatar

so much to take away from! so glad to have stumbled upon here <3

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